Although it would be great if every adult acted like an adult, that’s not the world we live in. Emotional immaturity is a massive issue with many grown people, and it can be incredibly frustrating to deal with if you’re dating someone like that. But it’s not always as easy to recognize an emotionally immature man-child as one might think.
That said, the last thing any aspiring sugar baby wants is to wake up one day and realize she’s completely wasted the best of herself being her boyfriend’s substitute mother. Here are some signs you’re in a relationship that might lead you in that direction, the better to help you nip things in the bud before they get out of hand.
1. His wants and needs always have to come first
It’s normal and healthy for a child to prioritize its own needs and to try to get them met via any means possible. A child cannot yet take care of itself, so its survival absolutely depends on getting other people to look after them.
But a grown man with a grown girlfriend should have outgrown tendencies like these a long time ago. So if your guy is the type to throw hissy fits and otherwise try to manipulate those around him into giving him what he wants, he’s definitely emotionally immature.
2. The word “compromise” isn’t in his vocabulary
Emotionally mature adults in relationships understand that nothing is all about them. Yes, their needs and desires are important, but so are everyone else’s. So when people in relationships who don’t already agree need to find common ground, they compromise.
However, a man with emotional maturity issues to deal with doesn’t even think of compromise as an option. He’ll insist on getting his way, and if that can’t or won’t happen, he’ll simply throw in the towel and quit altogether. You deserve a sugardaddy who won’t act that way.
3. His coping mechanisms are often toxic
Even the most distinguished, composed sugardaddy or sugar baby can have a bad day now and then or make a poor decision regarding how to handle life’s little issues. But the vast majority of the time, they deal with their problems like emotionally intelligent adults, especially when they know their choices affect other people.
An emotionally immature man, on the other hand, will almost always simply resort to toxic habits when the going gets rough. How does your boyfriend handle challenges or problems in life? Does he routinely turn to vices like drugs, drinking, overeating, or risk-taking to cope? If so, he’s got a lot of growing up to do.
4. He only cares about your feelings when it’s convenient
An emotionally mature sugardaddy understands that the world doesn’t revolve around him. He doesn’t just get that other people have feelings to consider and boundaries that should be respected. He’s also empathetic enough to care about others and instinctively wants to do right by them.
So how good is your boyfriend at caring about your feelings? If he only cares when it’s convenient for him, then he doesn’t truly care at all. Emotionally immature people don’t honestly care what others want. They may even become visibly irritated when others show emotion or get upset.
5. He’s flaky and doesn’t keep promises
As an emotionally mature sugar baby, you know that your word is your bond. You don’t make promises you don’t intend to keep. And in the event you do need to break a promise or cancel plans you’ve made with someone else, you always apologize and look for a way to make things right.
Can you count on your boyfriend to do the same? Emotionally immature men can never be counted on to keep promises or stick to plans made in advance. Even if they plan to, something else always comes up. They’ll cancel on a dime if a better opportunity presents itself or if they just plain don’t feel like it anymore when it’s time to follow through.
6. He thinks he has nothing to learn from others
An emotionally mature sugardaddy or sugar baby may well be extremely intelligent or experienced. They may even be experts when it comes to many things. But they still understand that they don’t know everything and will actually care what other people have to say.
However, an emotionally immature man not only doesn’t care what others have to say but won’t even bother to listen. It’s not even worth your while to argue with him, because you already know there’s no getting through to him.
Ultimately, life is too short to waste your time and energy playing nursemaid to an overgrown man-child. You deserve to be with an emotionally mature sugardaddy who knows how to treat other people and can be counted on to do what’s right. Why not trade up and start living the life you know you really want?