Relationships hold prime importance in everyone’s life since they provide warmth, support, exuberance, comfort and a sense of protection. However, when become unhealthy, they cause massive turbulence and discomfort in one’s life, and steal the peace of mind. Regardless of the nature or kind, all relationships experience ups and downs. Some people get through them unassisted while others seek external assistance. It’s of no doubt that dealing with relationship problems is quite demanding and if not dealt with at the right time and in the wise manner, people may end up facing emotional turmoil, severing the ties, or even ending their life.
If you or anyone around you, are finding it difficult to establish or sustain a connection, or to end a toxic one, which is badly affecting the productivity then it must be taken into serious consideration. The best resource in such cases is a skilled relationship coach.
Not only can intimate relationship troubles be solved by consulting a life coach, but others such as family associations, friendships, married couples, co-workers and any kind of kinship can be saved or revitalized with the help of an adept coach.
Alternatively, you can choose to transform your life and of others by becoming a life coach. It’s possible to become a coach even if you are working full time.
A certified coach helps his clients in defining and achieving their relationship goals and in finding the solution to problems that are not letting their relationships bloom. He assesses the situation judiciously and is competent enough to offer multiple solutions tailored to the situation at hand. To be a life coach, you must be empathetic, non-judgmental, sagacious and an excellent listener.
Resolving relationship issues as a coach, is a tedious process in the start. However, with time and experience it becomes smooth and comparatively easy. In almost all kinds of relationship quandaries, following key steps can help you comprehend, analyze and resolve the situation successfully.
The first and foremost action is identification of the problem (one or more) and its root cause. The problem can be due to inflexibility of approach, egotism, verbal abuse, lack of communication or compromise, holding secrets, wide difference in opinions, worthlessness, passive-aggressive behavior, or due to any other reason.
You have to discuss all the current or past instances that directly led to, or are indirectly connected to the problematic situation. Keep a collaborative approach to identify the single prime issue of the client and go in the descending order of their importance.
The second step is to gain an in-depth insight of the goals, hopes, and dreams that your client shares. You should be clear about what they want to have out of an association. Remind them that not everything can be achieved in one go and also perfection is just an illusion. Furthermore, relationship satisfaction is an ongoing process and one has to determine a middle ground that suits best for all the recipients.
You should also work on their understanding of self-image. Empower them with confidence. Help them acknowledge their weaknesses and in overcoming their insecurities. Know what they fear from and teach them how to handle an unforeseen situation. Let them know that it’s ok to make mistakes. Teach them how to apologize, forgive and communicate.
Thirdly, after addressing their concerns, you should state all of their possible solutions and their consequences. This is a critical step because devising healthy strategies is a back and forth process. Seek their feedback at every step and revise accordingly.
Lastly, solving a problem or determining a solution is not the end of the process. You have to train them to develop an optimistic mindset so that they can view any challenging situation with a positive approach and are able to handle that effectively. Educate them about how to deal with different obstacles, and how to manage stress and rejections. Your major goal should be enabling your client to identify their challenges and propose a feasible solutions for every individual in an association.
Schedule your clients’ appointments carefully and get to know them from a deeper level of understanding. Make them comfortable enough so they share their confidential details and you can better assess a situation to devise a solution.
To conclude, helping a client with their relationship problems can be challenging but a rewarding process. It is all about learning how to make a careful evaluation, address their fears and shortcomings, and help them achieve their desired goals to create a blissful life.