FAM (Fighting all Monsters) is a child cancer charity that helps kids battling with the illness, founded by Milk Tyson, a celebrity who has a heart for young kids teamed up with people who share the same mission – help kids and teens with cancer fight all monsters inside them!
Self-esteem is a crucial part of life. Most people who suffer from low self-esteem are teens. And when teens feel worthless, the actions they resort to afterward can be terrible such as addiction, suicide, crime, and might cause assault, battery and other signs of violent behavior. That’s most common for normal teenagers, but how about for those teens who are battling cancer? Most of these youngsters have low to zero self esteem, that’s why Milk Tyson created a foundation to support kids with cancer. Not only do they get help to get medication but also, feel that they have an extended family like MILK TYSON Charity who encourages them to improve their self-esteem.
It can be ordinary for a teenager to have less confidence or to become disappointed with themselves. Everyone who has self-esteem issues sees themselves as unworthy. But for kids with cancer it’s a lot worse. Recent research and case studies have found out that teenagers with cancer are much more likely to have a low self-esteem and become worrisome compared to a group of youngsters that don’t have any history of the illness.
Lack of confidence can be particularly challenging for kids with cancer because they need to be optimistic to fight the disease inside them. They always worry about how long they’d live or if they can go to school or work in the future and form new relationships with others.
Low self-esteem is only a state of mind, and it can still change. Teenagers who have cancer that suffer from this can only improve themselves if they are willing to challenge and face the judgments and negative feelings that they have for themselves. And of course, if they have a support system who will always encourage them and if they feel loved.
Here are some of the easiest ways to help teens improve their self-worth to provide a positive view and to have the confidence to become an independent person in the future.
Give them praises and be generous
It is important to commend every child not just for the accomplishments but also for the efforts, even at those times when they fail. Encouraging them to be proud of themselves can be helpful as well. Pride should come from within, and not just in response to external approval.
Teens with low self-esteem might feel awkward in accepting praises. So provide compliments carefully. Don’t just give too many compliments that may still sound insincere. Teens have an internal radar that will be able to tell them if their parents are just trying to make them feel good.
Be generous to help, if you are capable and know that you can make a difference in these kids’ lives, then don’t hesitate to be generous and give them support, love and care.
Be careful in giving criticisms
Sometimes parents must correct a child’s behavior or action. However, some criticisms may lead to shame and ridicule.
It is necessary to use “I” statements rather than “You” statements whenever giving criticisms. For example, instead of saying “why are you lazy? Can’t you take care of anything?”, it is better to say “I want you to keep your things in the proper places and not just lying all over your room.”
Encourage them to say positive statements
Psychologists discovered that negative self-talk is after anxiety and depression. That is why positive self-talk is vital in everything we do. This is very important specially for those teens who are battling cancer. Optimism can lead them a long way!
What we think can determine how we feel, and how we feel can also determine how we behave. Thus, it is necessary to guide teens to be positive. Some examples of positive self-talk is “I can solve this problem if I don’t give up.”
Motivate them to engage in more activities
Always allow the teens to improve their self-esteem by motivating them to participate in extracurricular activities. It doesn’t mean that they have cancer, that they are very fragile and should be restrained to do activities. Doing activities such as sports are not only teaching them to work diligently to reach their goals, but it also teaches them to have a sense of identity.
Encouraging the teens to join in contests and competitions can boost their resiliency. And they learn to face success with appreciation, and failure with optimism.
Set as a good role model
Teenagers can learn what it is like to have a healthy self-esteem by seeing a role model. Every parent should be conscious of their actions and attitudes, specifically when their child is around.
Be a good example by asserting yourself politely in public, addressing issues with a positive outlook, and showing self-confidence. The teens might develop low self-esteem if they see pessimistic family members who hesitate about their abilities and consistently react to everything with negativity.
Ask for an assistance
If the teenager has a huge problem with self-esteem that generates serious self-doubt, depressions, anxiety, or mentions of suicide, seek assistance from a psychologist or any mental health professional. The professional may be able to reveal deeper reasons for having low self-esteem or may suggest a treatment plan or medication to address the symptoms.
Additional guides to keep in mind
It is important to think of the things that the child might do that doesn’t display high self-esteem. Here are some of the things that need to keep in mind.
- It is better to recognize a child’s achievements and success, rather than to compare him or her negatively with other kids, particularly his or her brothers and sisters.
- Always control the temper and never yell at the children, especially not in public. They will just feel ashamed and embarrassed.
- Avoid threatening to leave them if they fail to do what you want, or never say things which indicate that life would be better without them. It might only hurt the children’s self-esteem.
The development of a healthy self-esteem is extremely vital to the happiness and success of teenagers, especially for those who are battling with cancer. Self-esteem from teens often comes from being aware that they are loved, and they belong to a family that values them. It also comes from being encouraged by the things that are important to them and praised for the things that they achieved.