A breakup can possibly be one of the most difficult phases in your life. There is a lot of emotional upheaval and changes that you didn’t expect. It can be stressful as well and you need to handle it properly. Honestly talking, healing from the breakup may take time and it is time that actually heals you. But in the meantime, it is important for you to focus on yourself and try to keep busy in healthy activities. Here are a few things you can do to move on.
Don’t contact your ex
In the days following the breakup, there are a lot of self-doubts – whether you did the right thing or not. You are so used to talking to that person, that not talking may be difficult. But you must remember that under no circumstances should you try to get in touch with your ex. Texting or calling may not be the best route. You will unnecessarily get entangled again and may feel all the pain and shame related to actions and events with that person. It will also be difficult to move on if you constantly keep trying to connect or have some sort of friendship with them. They are your ex and you should leave it at that. You broke up for a reason, so hold that close and move on.
Travel with friends
Travelling is often considered good for the soul. You see new things and try new things as well. If an adventure is what you are in the mood for, plan and make that trip. Involve your friends too, so that you can enjoy company and basically have fun. That leg pulling and pranks will add the necessary spike to your adventure. This is your adventure and must be fun. Dig up the old travel list and pack your bags. Do group bookings and plan activities that will give you new experiences. A new place with old friends is sure to make you feel happy and on the road to recovery.
Keep yourself entertained
Don’t have too much free time where you sit and do nothing but think. Do things, take up hobbies or learn something new. Keeping yourself entertained is quite important so you spend time doing something through which you have fun. You could also get your gang and play video games if that will help you in having a good time. Organize a game of football or baseball, whatever you like and play for fun. You could go on casual dates or try realistic sex dolls from sodolls if you still feel bored. You don’t have to delve into “productive” activities to spend time. Just go with the flow and do what you like. If you want to throw axes for a pastime do that or if you want to bake, then try that for entertainment.
Talk it out
Talking it out is the trusted way of getting over a breakup. Talk to someone close or a stranger. Even a therapist will do if you don’t feel too good. We often feel better while opening up to a stranger, as we know that we won’t see them again. They don’t know us or our ex and we can say all that we are feeling. Some people find it much easier to open up to strangers who are willing to listen. But if you want to talk to a close person may be your confidante even that can be helpful. If you feel really uncomfortable and nothing is helping, going to a therapist isn’t a bad idea. Make an appointment with them and don’t think of it as talking to a shrink. Therapists often help you untangle your emotions and deal better with situations. So, talking to them may be a good idea.