From bright-eyed toddlers to responsible adults, everyone loves celebrating their birthday. We love the day because it’s an opportunity to fee loved, acknowledged, and celebrated by the people around us. This is also why forgetting a loved one’s birthday is so painful for both you and the celebrant. What’s worse is that the closer the celebrant is to you, the more painful it can be.
If you find yourself in a position where you forget a special birthday, you’ll need to make amends, and quickly, if you want to repair the relationship. In this post, we’ll share four practical ways to apologize and smoothen things over with your loved one.
Four ways to wish a belated happy birthday
Come clean and apologize
The single most effective way to make up for your forgetfulness is to apologize. As human beings, a lot goes through our minds daily, from workplace responsibility to home and family affairs. It’s perfectly understandable to forget a special date.
While apologizing, it’s important to acknowledge how much the day means to the celebrant and express your deepest regrets. You should also promise them that it will never happen again, and take steps to ensure it doesn’t. Setting a Google calendar alert is a very practical approach.
Depending on the circumstances (if you forget their birthday often or if it’s a special number), an apology may not be enough. In this case, you’ll need something extra, like a grand gesture or a breathtaking gift. The other three tips on this guide will show you just how to do that.
Throw a party!
Missing the date doesn’t mean you can’t throw a birthday party. However, a party does come with complications. For example, you’d need to convince friends to attend yet another party in honor of the same person when most people have probably forgotten about the event. You’d also have to plan a truly awesome party; else it could become an annoyance to everyone, especially the celebrant.
To execute a stunt like this, you need to pull out all the stops – best decorations, most delicious foods, premium liquor. Your loved one can’t stay mad at you when they see how much effort you put into the party.
You can even pretend that you never forgot about the birthday, and claim you simply wanted to surprise them. The success of this approach is based on how convincing you are, how great the party is, and how corporative your guests are. But it’s definitely possible.
Give them an experience
There are so many experiences that you can gift someone. Some of them include taking them to a concert and writing them a song. You can also get them all the best movies in April (2020) and binge them together. The movie experience can help you bond and create some new memories and inside jokes – the basis of many friendships.
You can also give your loved one the power to choose their own gift by giving them a personalized coupon. Your loved one can turn it in whenever they decide what they want you to do for them (within reason, of course). Their request could be as annoying as having you mow their lawn or as thrilling as taking them to an anime Convention.
Get a novelty gift
Novelty gifts are things you can’t get in the market. They are born out of your love and understanding of the recipient, and they usually carry a message. Novelty gifts can range from things like customizing T-shirts, to elaborate endeavors like wrapping your loved one’s car.
You can look at things that they love for inspiration. If they have a favorite author, you could buy all the books by that individual. If they love poetry, you can compose a moving birthday wish. However you choose to go about it, remember that a novelty gift is something unexpected and one-of-a-kind.
The bottom line
Getting it right the first time is always better than damage control. If you can help it, remember your loved one’s birthday and get them a moving gift. But if you do forget, the tips in this article can help you make it up to them. Just make sure you don’t forget next year!