If you belong to a western country, you definitely don’t know the basic cultural difference between two parts of the globe. Girls in traditional countries in general, and Vietnam in particular are grown in conservative environment. Their family system posses different values from the west altogether. Additionally, if you’re looking to make friends with a Vietnamese girl with no prior experience of dating in Vietnam, then you might face some difficulties. So, you want to avoid the misunderstanding as much as possible.
Here is a perfect brief guide of dating a Vietnamese girl.
Just before you guys start dating, it is obvious that you’ve got her number and you both have been talking for some time now. Making the first move to win a date often looks like the toughest one.
If you’re into the dating phase already, than you don’t need to worry at all. On the first date, you can select a subtle venue like a coffee shop to have a nice sip of coffee together. This helps you in certain ways. One way is that the date will be short, and the shy girl will be less nervous. Also remember that most of the Vietnamese girls don’t drink. So, invite her over a coffee and explore about her interests a bit more to make the venue better the next time.
Never ask the girl to go on a dinner on the first date, and if the girl asks for it, then she’s probably a gold digger (no offense). Also after the date, the topic of hiring a taxi for the girl might pop up in your mind. Remember that most of the younger girls in Vietnam don’t earn a lot, so, it might be a good option to get her an Uber after the date.
The Language Barrier
With a majority of Vietnamese girls speaking limited English, the language barrier might present another offer at first if you speak English. In this situation, use apps like google translate to eliminate the language barrier on your first date and afterwards.
Building A Long Term Relationship
If everything goes well in the first date, then you can look to build a long term relationship with the girl. For this, you can invite her to the second date and select a better venue this time. However, you should select the second by yourself and refrain from a venue that’s too expensive. After all, the girl should be interested in you, not the date venue.
Throughout the relationship, remember that Vietnam is a patriarchal society, so, you are supposed to take the leadership role in a relationship. Showing your weakness directly means losing the respect of the girl in a relationship. Also, keep in your mind that most girls won’t allow you to show your affection in the public. Study the society thoroughly and learn about the traditions they follow and things they don’t like.
Learn The Family Customs
If you and a Vietnamese girl are in a relationship, and you get invited to a family gathering, you guys are probably having a good relationship. In a family meal, it is customary to let the eldest family member start eating, and then everyone follows. This adds an element of respect, and you must follow this tradition too.
There are other family traditions too that you’ll have to learn. For example, never shake hands with older women in the family (don’t ignore though if they try to shake hands). It is completely fine of you shake hands with men, but they prefer if you bow in front of the family when meeting. At the 3nd of each family dinner, you’ll be asked questions about marriage and children, this might cause some discomfort at first, but you can handle these questions by saying that it’s too early in the relationship and you aren’t prepared yet.
Learn The Warning Signs To Be Safe
Never talk about money early on in the relationship, this might indicate that she’ll ask you about your salary and might ask you for some money. Also, don’t choose an overly emotional girl, as you might run into a toxic relationship. Also, look for other red flags that apply to all the other women. Be careful and be safe in your relationship.