Just because your first marriage didn’t work out doesn’t mean your second time around won’t. Consider these tips for success when remarrying after divorce!
Getting married for a second time? You’ve come to the right place.
After a divorce, even an amicable one, it can be hard to start dating again. You may find someone you really love, but when it comes time to pop the question, you might still have apprehension because of the failure of your previous marriage.
It’s important to remember that every relationship is different. Just because your first marriage didn’t go the distance doesn’t mean this one is doomed as well.
In this post, we’re going to give you 6 tips to approach remarrying after divorce. Follow them closely and maybe you’ll gain a fresh perspective on love and relationships.
Put Baggage On the Table
Now that you’ve already been through a marriage that didn’t work, certain misgivings are going to trickle into this one. Instead of letting those same issues come to the fore over time, get all your baggage out on the table for you and your partner to discuss.
The sooner you can both recognize certain behaviors, the better you’ll be able to deal with the effects of them.
Use What You Learned
As much as you can, acknowledge the parts you played in the disintegration of your previous marriage. Use them to your advantage by preventing yourself from falling into the same old habits.
Everything that’s happened up to this point should inform your decision making moving forward.
Create a More Relaxed Atmosphere
Chances are your last marriage ended, at least in part, due to an uncomfortable atmosphere being cultivated. Atmosphere is a big part of any relationship. If it’s positive, supportive, and fun, then you’ll feel more comfortable.
It’s when the atmosphere is negative, nitpicky, and combative that communication breakdowns happen.
Address Conflict Quickly
Conflicts are still going to happen in your new marriage. You might associate conflict with the most negative parts of your former relationships, but they’re completely normal. However, there are things you can do to mitigate the lasting effects of conflict.
The best thing you can do is address them as soon as you’re ready to, kiss and makeup, then get on with your lives.
Don’t Close Yourself Off
When you continually prevent yourself from addressing conflicts in your marriage, you’ll start to close yourself off to your partner. Eventually, they won’t feel like they can communicate with you anymore and your relationship will deteriorate in the same way that others have.
Be open to having any and all conversations, no matter how uncomfortable they make you feel or how angry you might be. Open communication is the key to a lasting marriage.
Forgive and Be Forgiven