How to Become More Positive in 3 Easy Steps

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Most of us look for happiness by seeling out pleasant experiences while avoiding anything unpleasant like the plague; we think that if we could just accumulate enough stuff, get rid of conflict, be healthy and keep our loved ones safe, then everything would be okay.

Yet not only are these aspirations unrealistic; they don’t actually guarantee happiness.

We tend to chase after security and control, when really, we have no control over anything – except our minds.

It’s true that you have no real control over circumstances; but youcan train your mind for positivity and happiness. Here are 3 simple steps that will help you achieve lasting contentment regardless of what’s going on around you.

ONE: Step Away from Subjects That Upset You

In our world, we’re always pushing against what we don’t want. We have a war against terrorism, a war against drugs and a fight against cancer…. yet these problems get worse and worse as the years go by.

Here’s why:

the Universe doesn’t recognise the words ‘no’, ‘don’t’, ‘fight’ or ‘against.’. If you say: ‘I love terrorism!’, the Universe says: ‘You like that? Here’s more of it!’.’

By contrast, if you say: ‘I hate terrorism!’, the Universe says: ‘You like that? Here’s more of it!’.

So, being more positive starts with the understanding that whatever you put your attention on expands.

For example, let’s say you want to improve your financial situation, but you’re feeling worried about not being able to pay the bills this month. In that case, technically speaking you’re not focused on having more money. You’re focused onthe absence of it.

When that happens, you have to step right away from that subject and do something that feels good, like petting your cat or taking a walk in nature.

The end goal is to feel good, no matter what.

This is because when you feel good, you attract good things into your life, and often the things that have been bothering you work themselves out when you’re not obsessively focusing on trying to fix them.

TWO: Lean into Subjects that feel good

Let’s come back to the subject of finances. Suppose after a few months of saving, your bank balance is looking a little healthier.

Now, you’re feeling more hopeful, so this is the perfect time to give your full attention to the subject; for example, thinking and talking about all the wonderful things you’ll be able to do when you get your finances in order.

Energetically speaking when you’re feeling positive emotions, you attract positive things, people and circumstances into your life, including the improved financial situation that you’ve been wanting all along.

You may think that your number one priority is to solve all your problems so you can feel happy; but it’s the other way around.

Your number one priority is to find ways to feel happy right now; and as you do, your problems will solve themselves. You’ll attract the perfect solutions, people and situations that will allow you to be, do or have what you want.

So, feeling good is the answer. Working with a qualified clinical hypnotherapist can help you connect with the naturally positive part of your mind that knows the path to happiness.

THREE: Practise Appreciation Every Day

If you want to feel good more often, it’s important to practise feeling good daily; you do this by establishing an appreciation practice.

It’s pretty simple, really; all you have to do is find something to appreciate and think about that subject for as little as 30 seconds.

Here’s how:

Every day, take a piece of paper and on the top, write down the date. Then, whenever something happens that makes you feel glad or happy, write it down.

It doesn’t have to be anything earth shattering; it could be a delicious cup of coffee, a positive interaction with a work colleague or sitting in the sun for 5 minutes.

It’s the little day to day things like this that give us pleasure, contentment and happiness. When you actively seek out and immerse yourself in these experiences, you are training your mind for happiness and contentment.

Each time you do this, you’re saying to the Universe: ‘I like this. Please give me more of it’. The Universe always gives you more of what you focus on, so take advantage of this and you will become a more positive person who experiences daily peace, ease and inner contentment.