Online dating can be hard when you’re waiting for the love of your life. Here’s how to keep your chin up when dating is a disaster.
While everyone seems to know someone who found the love of their life online, for many people who are struggling to do the same, online dating can seem like a lot of effort for minimal reward. For people who live in small towns or rural areas, the dating pool is much smaller. For people who live in big cities, it can be challenging to get together with someone you’ve been chatting to.
Now, there are also many more options when it comes to choosing an online dating platform, and even this first step can be overwhelming. How do you stay motivated when things don’t seem to be working out, or get out of the “What if there’s someone better out there?” mentality when you do meet someone great? You need to look at each new day as an opportunity, and each new message as the potential first contact with your next great love. Here’s how to keep your morale up when things get hard.
Set your boundaries, and stick to them.
The entire process of dating can be absolutely exhausting. Often, we find ourselves going out on dates we aren’t particularly excited about, with people we aren’t particularly excited about, ‘just in case’ it turns into something incredible. But then, finding the one doesn’t have to mean dating absolutely everyone that ever messages you, or doing things you don’t want to do just for the sake of going on a date. Set your boundaries and stick to them. Tell yourself you won’t go if you’re not feeling it, or if you’re sick, or if the activity isn’t what you’re into. It’s especially important for women to set boundaries. If your potential partner doesn’t respect them, they’re not the one for you. It’s as simple as that.
Keep your options open.
You may be doing this already, but it’s worth reiterating that old mantra, “There are plenty more fish in the sea.” If you’re single and dating, but don’t seem to be able to make that leap into a serious relationship, just keep that mantra in the back of your head. That’s because it’s true that there are plenty more fish in the sea, and there are plenty of places, both online and offline, where you can meet them. If you’re looking for an interracial relationship, don’t limit yourself to an interracial dating specific website. Keep it open. Don’t settle for someone who’s ‘good enough.’ Call it quits and head out looking for someone better. Meeting new men is also a great way to forget about a more serious relationship has ended, even if it doesn’t go any further than flirting for now. Singleness isn’t a bad thing, no matter what society tells us. Flaunt it!
Remember the goal.
When the journey gets exhausting, remember the goal is still there, and every bad date you go on will take you one step closer to achieving that goal. Every single experience will make you stronger, help you learn about what you do and don’t want, and maybe even take you on dates to places you never thought you’d go, all in the pursuit of true love. Hey, in the meantime, at least you have some great stories to tell!