The Decemberists have released a powerful new video for “Once In My Life,” directed by acclaimed director and photographer Autumn de Wilde, and starring Autumn’s brother Jacob de Wilde. The song is the lead track on the band’s eighth studio album I’ll Be Your Girl, which was released on Capitol Records this Spring and found the band—lead singer/guitarist Colin Meloy, guitarist Chris Funk, keyboardist Jenny Conlee, bassist Nate Query, and drummer John Moen—embracing different influences and working with a new producer John Congleton (St. Vincent, Lana Del Rey) to broaden their sonic range and explore new approaches to making music.

Statement from Colin Meloy:

We were searching for a video idea for “Once In My Life” that would somehow capture the spirit of the song. In my mind, the song is a meditation, a plea to the cosmos that I imagine everyone, at some point or another, has made. We asked our old friend and collaborator Autumn de Wilde to pitch an idea and she came to us with a simple but powerful story: a depiction of her brother Jacob, a man who has lived with physical and intellectual differences his entire life, dancing in the streets of Los Angeles. The song, in this light, becomes more than just a “celebration of sadness,” (which I have sometimes called it) but suddenly a longing holler to the universe against one’s perceived otherness.

This idea is particularly close to me as I’ve witnessed how the world sees my son Hank, who is autistic. When I’m out in public with Hank, I’m acutely aware of the world’s attachment to social and behavioral norms; in these situations, Hank’s otherness can suddenly be put in stark relief. Through the lens of Jacob’s joyful and defiant movement in Autumn’s video, we see a man shrugging off the constraints of an unaccommodating and judgmental world and truly reveling in his body and mind.

Statement from Autumn de Wilde:

My brother Jacob is 7’2”.

His feet are size 22.

He has Auditory Processing Disorder.

He likes to dress up as Chewbacca.

He is not a basketball player.

This video is my love letter to him.

My mother said to me recently when we were talking about the way the people tend to react to Jacob, someone who looks and sounds extraordinarily different from their opinion of what normal is: “When we see someone new or different, we have to stop thinking about ourselves for a moment in order to really experience them. As humans, we tend to want to put our fingerprints all over other people.”

The Decemberists’ song “Once In My Life” is the song I needed when I was young…. when I felt stared at, mocked or unseen for my heart and mind. Jacob also had an immediate emotional reaction to the song when I played it for him the first time. I had been wanting to explore a creative collaboration with my brother for a while, and this was the perfect song.

I have a very strong connection to Hank Meloy, Colin Meloy and Carson Ellis’ son, who is autistic. He has very much inspired my mind and imagination as an artist and a thinker. Although Jacob and Hank’s bodies and diagnosis are very different, Jacob, Hank and all of us who look different, sound different, or think different have a connection in our experience of otherness. There are many of us who feel sometimes like we live in a sort of dollhouse for the wrong doll, but our perspective can shift dramatically when we realize, in fact, that our difference has simply redefined the space we are in. My brother is in his 40’s and his long journey to achieve the comfort and understanding in how he moves, communicates and connects to others is inspiring to me. Self-love and acceptance are the real superpowers waiting for all of us.

Everyone featured in the video and working on the crew is a friend who gave 100% to this project. I wanted Jacob to be surrounded by friends who were committed to helping him tell this story, but also create a safe space for Jacob, which changed our pace and usual process for filmmaking. It was thrilling as a director and a sister to challenge Jacob and myself. I am honored to have put the spotlight on him, watched my brother flourish as an artistic human onscreen and show us how gorgeous different is.

The Decemberists’ extensive 2018 touring continues later this month with West Coast shows, including a stop at the Greek Theatre in Los Angeles on July 31, and a rescheduled appearance at BRIC Celebrate Brooklyn! Festival on August 14.  On August 4-5 the band will host the second coming of their own curated festival Travelers’ Rest, which will take place at the Big Sky Brewing Company Amphitheatre in Missoula, Montana. The Decemberists will be headlining both days of the festival, once again playing two unique sets, with other confirmed artists announced including Death Cab for Cutie, Jeff Tweedy, Mavis Staples, Tune-Yards, Whitney, Parquet Courts, Tinariwen, I’m With Her, Waxahatchee and Lucy Dacus. See below for a full tour schedule and visit for ticket information.


July 26 – Les Schwab Amphitheater – Bend, OR +

July 27 – The Fox Theater – Oakland, CA +

July 28 – Montbleu Resort & Casino – Stateline, NV +

July 30 – Humphrey’s – San Diego, CA +

July 31 – Greek Theatre – Los Angeles, CA +

August 1 – House of Blues – Las Vegas, NV +

August 2 – Snow Park Amphitheater – Park City, UT +

August 4-5 – Travelers’ Rest – Missoula, MT

August 9 – Edmonton Folk Festival – Edmonton, AB

August 11 – Belly Up Aspen – Aspen, CO *

August 12 – Bohemian Nights at Newwestfest – Fort Collins, CO

August 14 – BRIC Celebrate Brooklyn! Festival at Prospect Park Bandshell – Brooklyn, NY ^

September 16 – Cityfolk – Ottawa, ON

September 17 – FirstOntario Concert Hall – Hamilton, ON #

September 18 – Express Live! – Columbus, OH #

September 20 – Taft Theatre – Cincinnati, OH #

September 21 – Iron City Birmingham – Birmingham, AL #

September 22 – Sing Out Loud: A City of St. Augustine Celebration of Music – St. Augustine, FL

September 23 – House of Blues – Lake Buena Vista, FL #

September 25 – White Oak Music Hall – Houston, TX #

September 26 – Civic Theatre – New Orleans, LA #

September 27 – Majestic Theater – Dallas, TX #

September 29 – Bass Concert Gall – Austin, TX #

September 30 – Cain’s Ballroom – Tulsa, OK #

October 1 – Holland Performing Arts Center – Omaha, NE #

October 2 – The Sylvee – Madison, WI #

October 4 – MASS MoCA – North Adams, MA ~

October 5 – Orpheum Theater – Boston, MA ~

October 8 – Murat Theatre at Old National Centre – Indianapolis, IN ~

November 4 – Vicar Street – Dublin, Ireland %

November 5 – O2 Academy – Glasgow, UK %

November 7 – Eventim Apollo – London, UK %

November 8 – O2 Academy – Bristol, UK %

November 10 – O2 Academy – Leeds, UK %

November 11 – Rock City – Nottingham, UK %

November 12 – Albert Hall – Manchester, UK %

November 14 – Grote Zaal TiVre – Utrecht, Netherlands %

November 15 – Paradiso – Amsterdam, Netherlands %

November 16 – Astra – Berlin, Germany %

November 17 – Rolling Stone Park @ Europa-Park – Rust, Germany

+ with Whitney

^ with Hamilton Leithauser

* Givers

# Kacy & Clayton

~ Marissa Nadler

% Hop Along

About RJ Frometa

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